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Gina writes: I just spent 2 months, 7 days week, 10-14 hrs a day decluttering a friends
house to prepare for her homecoming from the hospital. I was the only person
doing this. I am still there every 2 days caring for her cat who I am trying to
adopt out. My friend came home for less than 6 hrs before I had to call an
ambulance for her to return to the hospital. Now, I have learned that she will
not be coming home at all but will be going to a nursing home since she is
afraid to live by herself. Her sister is the one who called me in a panic after
her 4th day in hospital (beginning of May) stating that 'they' would condemn her
sister's home and never let her return to it since it was such a mess...she was
a hoarder but not as bad as you see on tv. Her sis was preparing to leave on a 2
week holiday that she could not cancel without losing $7000 and expressed how
she wished she could do it herself (she was almost crying and desparate) Now I
am hearing that all my hard work was not pointless since now they can now sell
the house...it is in showcase condition. Do you agree that they should offer me
'something' when they sell the house? My friend gave me 'gas' money to cover gas
only driving 20 plus km every day to work at her house. Everyone (my family and
friends) feel that I have been 'used' to get the house ready for sale. I was
only expecting to neaten things up, vacuum, dust, wash floors a week before her
return f rom the hospital and got 'roped' into this due to a panic call from her
sister. Since my friend had a trach installed and can no longer talk, her sis
told me the place had to be practically 'sterile' or she wouldn't be allowed to
come home. I was shocked and in a panic, agreed to do everything I could
including contacting her other friends to go visit her at the hospital during
the sister's 2 wk absence. I ended up spending my whole summer cleaning her
house. Should I, or do I have the right to expect anything from the sale of her
house?
What would this have cost a professional to do? Now, her sister is
hinting that I should run a garage sale so the proceeds can go to my f riend's
church...I think I've done more than enough. When my daughter wanted to buy an
outdoor lounger from my friend's garage, she asked for $40 since she paid $79
and had never gotten the chance to use it yet!!!! Prior to that, she said she
'didn't care' about anything in the garage and that the church could
sell everything and keep the money. I will be delivering the money to her in
the hospital but am shocked she would even charge me! What was my time worth?
What would you have charged? It probably would take a week for your TEAM of
workers to do the same?????
She is considering using an estate seller to sell her house contents...what
percentage would you charge to do this? No antiques, just nice furniture. I've
already thrown mountains of garbage away!!! The house is neat and sparse and
ready for sale.
I only cleaned her house so she would be able to live independently with
paid care workers and not have to go into a nursing home. She is only 59. She
told me she wanted to come home but told her other friends she was too afraid to
live alone. I've known her for over 30 years but have only seen her about twice
a year prior to her health problems...breast cancer 10 yrs ago. I have never
met any of her current friends or family until I was cleaning her house. she
led me to believe her two older sisters just wanted to put her away in a nursing
home so they wouldn't have to deal with her.
I never expected payment...I just wanted to give her the opportunity to
come home and live whatever time she had left with as much dignity and freedom
as possible. I was texting with her almost daily giving her pep talks and trying
to keep her on a positive track addressing her fears and life changes etc. Now
I'm wondering if I was only used.I have become an emotional wreck and am looking
after an 81 yr mom, daughter and husband still recovering from major surgery and
is diagnosed with cancer himself.
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